Change yourself, and be content

Sticking to a new path, or to the direction we want to go can be a difficult task, especially when it comes to involving others in our lives. Humans are, (for the most part) social animals, and we thrive in the company of others.  Sure, this is a bit generalistic.. We don’t necessarily grow when paired with any other random human being (though anyone can teach you a lesson about something:  you just need to open your mind)

why-compare-yourself-to-others-quoteWhat this post deals with is the acceptance and feeling of contentedness that we need to stay mindful of when we are changing ourselves for the better. As we begin to feel happier, more spiritually connected, and more in touch with ourselves, that internal resonance can start to alienate us from the lives of others in close proximity that are not on the same journey. I hesitated at the end of that last sentence: it’s very easy to see others who are not being accountable as needing guidance or feedback/help to start to evolve.

But they are not in the same place as any other human on the planet. They should not feel any less about themselves, nor feel the burning desire to join our path, unless they specifically resonate at a similar frequency: only then should one open up and share similar experiences that help both parties grow.


As I’ve begun to tread down the current path I am on, I have found myself becoming easily frustrated with the lives of those around me who have no desire to open their eyes, to fill themselves with a similar spiritual energy. This especially applies to my closest friends and family: I suppose I am eager to have them reap the same rewards and quite inner peace that meditation provides..Yet as we get caught up in bringing others along with us, our own path is sullied.. the smooth water’s surface disturbed, as this becomes all encompassing. It’s easy to judge and think less of people who we think are stuck, who we think are in a rut, who we think want and need help.

They might, they might not.. but it’s not for us to treat them with any less respect as we would at be treated ourselves.. If they want help, they’ll ask for it. If they choose to enlist the support of someone else, that’s also ok. Their path is not our path. We cannot ever know what is going on in anyone else’s head.

Ultimately, if they see the need to change, (which they might not: it’s perfectly ok for anyone to be content with their lives as they are!) they need to manifest their own energy and effort in the process for it to have any effect.

So as you get out there from day to day, share your enthusiasm, and your happiness, but do not preach to those you have pigeon-holed into needing a push in a similar direction to your own. Just observe every fellow human being as on their own path, nod to them with human kinship, and press on. By being yourself, and changing who you are for the better as you see it, you’ll in turn provide positive energy into the world, making it better for everyone sharing it with you


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